This is who I am... plain and simple; but on the other hand, perhaps it isn't. I say that becase I have three other blogs on this site that all attempt to explain who I am, and here I am creating another one; (what, the three that I have are not sufficient?)
But I look at it like this: I have plenty of "sufficiency," as well as plenty of interests... hence the three, and now four blogs. I could tell you that I'm five foot nine with brown eyes and short, red hair (hair that' been dyed just about every shade of red that there is) and I like it that way. But why should I tell you that? You were looking for a blonde model with blue eyes? OOPPS! You wanted somebody with long hair? Dude, where I live, it's 110 in the summer time, easy. Short hair is just a matter of praticality. I try to live with a lot of that...practicality. It's very important. Besides, I believe it shows that a person has skill...wherever else they may be "lacking."
I have "kissed dating goodbye"... and found that it has not worked. I remember when Joshua Harris came out with his groundbreaking book that the media (of course) gave him so much so much flack for. Did I just say that twice? Yeah? Oh well, get used to it. Anyway, "not dating" HAS removed a lot of anxiety from my life. Good Thing. I like simplicity... largely because I tend to make simple things complicated. If my honesty irritates you, you may want to stop reading NOW :)
This is not something I'm afraid of, I just know that I need to accept the given fact. I tend to make simple things complicated and so, if something starts out complicated and I get caught in the middle, the angst tends to shoot out the top of my head. In siplicity, I keep my promises, including those I make to myself. That being said, I've made a promise to myself that iIwould never again try another online dating site. I just said I didn't date, right? Yes, but the other half of that sentance says that it has not worked.
So, I now need to talk a little bit about online dating sites, but there is a meathod to my madness... so....
The site "Eharmony.com" was begun by a man named Niel Clark Warren. He's a Christian, with a desire to help teach hopeful couples how to have the best chance of staying together. You know, that smiling guy with the grey hair in the commercials? That's him. He was on James Dobson's show "Focus on the Family" many times, and that is where I first learned about Eharmony. It was before this explosion of online dating sites, and before "Eharmony" looked like any other dating site because all the "Christianity" was sucked outof it Anyway, now there are others like "Christianmingle.com," and "Chistianlifestyle.com"
But, my profile's right here, so I have no need to try either. I don't like online dating sites, because (just like real dating) people get stuck into little "pockets" of information. Come on, I'm a woman... not a piece of information. My pant size is 12, by the way, and according to the fashion industry...I'm fat. Okay, how many of you have stopped reading now?
In a moment of weakness, (and man did I hate it)...I'd tried Christianmingle. com, and one guy that I'd wished to keep in touch with, ended up meeting somebody... on a plane! and very casually "messaged" me that he was now seeing someone. (PS..."Thank you for your kind words"). Kind words? That's interesting, because, when I read that, what I wanted to say wasn't exactly kind... (Ahem): "Remove your profile, you dope! Do you have any idea how many women you're misleading?" This might give you momentary satisfaction, but it's not exactly an endearring quality!" Anyway, why should I pay to see whether somebody "may be" a potential relationship for me? I can date for real, and have him pay for everything and then drive me home! I would say that I don't date because I'm not interested in impressing anyone; but that's not true. Everybody to some degree is interested in impressing people; it's human nature. I just don't want to have to do it in high heels and pantyhose!
That is not me. Not at all. Besides, honesty is an absolute must for me, and with any online dating site, all I can think is : You don't know who you're REALLY talking to. So, how do you know that you're really talking to ME? (simple girl, who just likes to write poetry?) Well, I guess you don't, do you? Wow. Am I screwed? Oh well. I'd like to start a website of my own: "NO Eharmony.com" Don't worry... there's no disrespect here. It's just that online dating sites don't work for everyone. Naturally, the commercials are going to take the "best of the best" cases, because it's like an interview...let me sell myself to you. (Pretty much like a date?) Understandable. Anyway, I always wonder about the UN-success stories. What about those wonderful hopefuls who were maybe passed over, because the little pockets of information were not impressive to someone? I actually had a friend that this happened to. She began corresponding with someone and they decided to meet, eventually; and they did meet (in a well-lit, public place... good girl). But she quickly found that there were things that he'd been inconsistent about. Needless to say... nothing developed.
I'm 33 and I live with my mother. (How well would THAT go over on Eharmony?) Yes, I remember the extasy of living on my own, coupled with the agony of paying for everything on my own. (What, I don't get to choose)? I did the math once...my rent alone was eating up 71% of my income; coupled with the fact that just because your rent goes up, that does not mean that your SSI does. I tried the section 8 thing, but realized that at that rate, I wouldn't have a place to live till I was dead, and by then... oh well, NEXT! (Besides, the place I'd picked out for myself was so cute)! So, I moved into the place I wanted. It was amazing, I loved it! But desperate times call for desperate measures... we're in a depresson, don't you know :) so, I had to be practical. I realized that I soon would no longer be able to pay my rent, and my mother could barely pay hers... so, I moved in with her. We are now having a blast on Facebook and Twitter, and poking fun at life.
Altogether, there are five people living here. It's a two bedroom apartment, and we are making it work. It's difficult at times...but everything in life that's worth anything IS difficult (no matter what you hear on TV) :) Anyway, I'm uninterested in looking for "Singlews in my area." Just because it's my "area" does not mean it's my preference. As I said, it gets to be 110 in the summer, easy! Not my cup of tea.
Speaking of tea, I once spent a semester in England, and it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I like climates that are "cooler" with rain... not "freezing cold" with "too much rain." England (wonderful as it is) is freezing cold with too much rain... so I doubt I would want to live there permenantly. But needless to say, I'm looking to change "areas"; I'm not interested in having my braincells fried one more summer! :) I am now looking forward to the Chinese food that is on it's way Orange Chicken. I'll be enjoying this with a Stella Artois... and here it comes now :) This, my lovelies, is (for now) my profile...No Eharmony required. :)
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