Guys, don't make fun of a woman's body. Just don't do it. To me, this is one of those, if -you-don't-know-I'm not-going-to-tell-you kinda things. It hurts...it's not funny...and it's NOT appropriate. Period. I don't care how you were raised...maybe this was the norm for you, to hear your dad (or your mother's husband) call her fat, tell her to tone her body, scrutinize every part of her body with degrading details, say she's a fat pig, constantly tell her she needs to diet, and the like. Ladies...don't ever accept this kind of abuse from a man, and don't EVER do this to yourself either! (Please.)
We live in a culture of idols and the fact is that many women are systematically sacrificing themselves on the alter of perfection. Take a hike Barbie! I've heard it said that it HAS to be true that men designed the Barbie doll because it's been proven that THOSE measurements are impossible on a real woman. I wish that every idiot who ever rejected a woman or made her feel less than for lack of a so-called "perfect body" could spend some time interacting with women who are being treated for eating disorders. I wish they could see women hospitalized because they are starving themselves...ripping out their IV's because they think the nourishment is going to make them fat! They are often "walking skeletons" who still believe they are overweight! They kneel at the alter of the toilet, literally purging themselves of anything that would keep them alive...
It probably started when she was a happy, bubbly little girl, just wanting an ice cream cone. She probably had not lost her baby-fat, and some embittered adult decided to remind her of that. Guys, I wish each of you could crawl inside the soul of a woman, or young child, who's had their spirit crushed by some immature idiot's horrible remarks. Couple this with the fact that many times, this man is her father! Women want to please their daddy's like they need air to breathe. This habitual crushing of their souls can make women believe the lie that it is okay to accept this kind of behavior from men because they begin to abuse themselves...using food and the scale a degrading punishment. Guys...don't contribute to this!
I was reading some comments last night in response to a blog post. A couple women were sharing stories about being with men who scrutinized their bodies and told them they were fat. Needless to say, these relationships did not last. (Good). Ladies and gentleman, it is all around us... we live in a world that HATES anything that makes a woman virtuous, and many of our men are being raised to light the fire that flares a woman's temper... when he has no right to verbally abuse her, grab her, pinch her, tickle her, call her names, and anything else that degrades her body, or her physical appearance. Then, he just giggles and laughs. He tells her her she needs to get over herself. He says things like "I'm just messin" with ya.". Yeah, well, the only thing I want to see right now is the back of your head getting smaller and smaller.
Ladies, did you know that clothing manufacturers are MAKING clothes smaller and smaller, in part so that women believe that they are gaining weight? Why would they do this? According to author Kevin Trudeau, it is because of the huge market out there for weight-loss products. Just watch the commercials on TV. Sex sells...EVERYTHING...even things you'd never think sex would, or could sell, would you agree? Oh, and images. Images, images, images everywhere!! To any man out there who is sincerely working to be faithful to his wife or girlfriend... (I'm sorry, I don't know how to finish that thought.)
I will say this...I really think the whole thing is a set-up. Men are not raised to behave like adults...and they are encouraged, around every corner, to objectify women. Women, either then hate men, lash out out them, and the women's lib movement gets about a thousand points OR women lay down like doormats, take the abuse, resent men, and then they become like the men who are abusing them, because they are building lives with that kind of toxic thinking, and they figure, two can play this game. So, they belittle, they abuse (back), they tease they insult...they create all the ammo. they need in order to "treat" him like the (pig) that he has proven himself to be. And the destructive cycle goes an on. STOP! Both of you, stop!
As I said, we live in a culture that despises anything that makes women virtuous, mature, brave adults who truly care about other's well being. Let's see...this would be things such as becoming a woman, childbirth, marriage, monogamy, faithfulness, breastfeeding, c-section scars, weight-gain, her monthly cycle that prepares her body to HAVE babies, sex with ONE person and purity and looking at the character, heart and motivation of a person. Guys, if you think that's uncomfortable to read, imagine what it's like to go through all of that, with no support from a significant other because she's gained some weight, and he doesn't find her as attractive anymore! So, if I understand this correctly...even with all she's already going through...he now feels DISRESPECTED because she's let herself go?? And on top of that, she's abused and verbally "stomped" all over like the gum under somebody's shoe! AND, as if this were not enough, often this woman is BLAMED for the abuse!! It's her fault because she knew he was like this when she...met him, married him (whatever). Guys, grow up. Ladies, if he DOES love and respect you like he's supposed to, he'll help you be anything you want, and love you in the process. Take care of him as best you can, cheer him on, support him in his endeavors, but make sure that YOU don't get the short end of the stick in the process! (please).
